Long live the fair sex

Last autumn 1,070 women won undergraduate places at Oxford University, compared with 1,025 men. The news provoked a snippy article in the New York Times complaining both about how slow Oxford (“the oldest university in the English-speaking world” as they sniffily termed it) had been getting to more than parity of the genders, and about the lack of diversity.

Firstly, in my own college there has been a majority of women undergraduates for years. I recall a rowing dinner where I was seated at dinner as lone male on the girl rower’s table (they saw me as harmless grandad. Yes, well…). and had a stimulating evening among people who were not just good sportswomen but held stunningly witty and clever conversations.

Women grow up quicker than men and in consequence take studying more seriously. Indeed, they remain throughout life more grown-up than men. It has just taken a few centuries to sink in.

Personally, I cannot for the life of me understand why men want to run everything. Let the girls get all the best degrees and best jobs and let us chaps have nice, relaxed lives and live longer. I am really fed up with all the stress, and want to eat chocolate and have no onerous responsibilities, like washing dishes. Will anyone join my new Society for Utter Male Dependency”? Entry fee: two pints of beer and some really funny jokes about politicians.

What does it matter for a woman if she has one extra child, anyway?

The climate

“Changes to the climate are being felt in every region of the planet, the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change (IPCC) has warned.

“A newly published study by the UN body, which assesses the science related to climate change, found that many of these changes “are unprecedented in thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of years” – and that some are “irreversible over hundreds to thousands of years”.

“The 234 scientists behind the research calculate that global temperatures are likely to rise by 1.5C over the next 20 years, in breach of the 2015 Paris climate agreement. A total of 195 nations agreed to a goal to “hold the increase in the global average temperature to well below 2C”, and to pursue efforts “to limit the temperature increase to 1.5C above pre-industrial levels”, says the IPCC. (Holly Clemence, The Week UK, 10 Aug 2021)

My comment: Even without the climate warming deniers and science denigrators it will be very difficult to stop the warming, or even affect it at all. Covid has highlighted the selfishness and ignorance of swathes of people with big egos and little to justify them. It’s so easy and convenient to listen to the chorus of self-interested deniers, resist change and attack the people who know something useful and positive.

A distasteful aspect of organized religion

An eight-year-old Hindu boy is being held in protective custody after becoming the youngest person ever to be charged with blasphemy in Pakistan.
The child’s “family is in hiding” and many other members of the Hindu community in the deeply conservative Rahim Yar Khan district of Punjab “have fled their homes” amid an outbreak of violence following the boy’s release on bail last week,

Troops have been deployed and 20 people arrested after a Muslim mob attacked a local Hindu temple. Ahmed Nawaz, a police spokesperson for the district, said that “some 70 to 80 protesters” stormed the temple last Wednesday and “smashed the windows”. The mob also “burned down the temple’s main door and damaged statues”, and police are “searching for another 100 suspects” thought to have been involved in the violence.

The unnamed child is “accused of intentionally urinating on a carpet in the library of a madrassa, where religious books were kept”. The penalty for blasphemy in Pakistan can be death.

A member of the boy’s family told the paper that “he is not even aware of such blasphemy issues”, adding: “He still doesn’t understand what his crime was and why he was kept in jail for a week. We have left our shops and work, the entire community is scared and we fear backlash. We don’t want to return to this area. We don’t see any concrete and meaningful action will be taken against the culprits or to safeguard the minorities living here.”

Eastern Eye, which is London-based, says the storming of the temple is “the latest in a string of assaults on Hindu places of worship in recent years, including an attack late last year that saw around 1,500 people overrun and set fire to a temple in northwestern Pakistan”.

The stark “uptick in violence comes as leaders in Pakistan and India have been locked in an increasingly harsh war of words”, with both sides accusing the other of inflaming religious sentiments to target minorities in their respective countries”.

Blasphemy legislation in Pakistan has historically been “disproportionately used” to target religious minority groups, according to The Guardian. Muslims represent 97% of the country’s population, while Hindus make up around 2%.
No executions have taken place since the death penalty was introduced for the crime of blasphemy in 1986, but “suspects are often attacked and sometimes killed by mobs”, the paper adds.

Ramesh Kumar, head of the Pakistan Hindu Council, said: “The attack on the temple and blasphemy allegations against the eight-year-old minor boy have really shocked me. More than a hundred homes of the Hindu community have been emptied due to fear of attack.”

Kapil Dev, a human rights activist campaigning for equal citizenship for religious minorities, added: “I demand charges against the boy are immediately dropped, and urge the government to provide security for the family and those forced to flee. (The Guardian, 10 Aug 2021)

My comment: An eight year old boy? Out of all proportion. A good talking-to and a lecture on respect would have been quite enough. Now expect a further ratcheting up of inter-communal hatred. If this is organized religion give me unorganized humanism – and Epicureanism.

Treating the mentally sick in a civilized manner

Recently, NYC launched the Behavioral Health Emergency Assistance Response Division, or “B-HEARD” program, to mobilize social workers instead of cops when responding to calls for people struggling with mental health issues. The teams respond to emergencies such as suicide attempts, substance misuse and serious mental illness.

The result? More people (95%) accepted help from the responding teams and fewer people were hospitalized.

This proves what reformers and abolitionists have been saying all along: We don’t need more funding for police, and we don’t need more cops on the streets. We need to completely reimagine public safety and drastically reduce the role of police in our society. (Isiah James, NY Congressional candidate).

My comment: Where practically possible the police should have no role in incidents involving the mentally ill. When they are summoned they, the police, should defer to people who are professionally trained to deal with the disturbed. The first thing policemen seem to do is to finger their guns.

Clímate change

Given the polarisation of politics, it may come as a surprise to find widespread unity in the UK on the subject of tackling climate change. Labour and Conservative voters alike, whether leavers or remainers, place the environment among their top four priorities for government action.

And even though support falls when people are confronted with the cost of making changes, more than a quarter are in favour – or at least say they are in favour – of measures that would make them poorer. (The Week 12 Aug 2021)

My comment: Of all the many issues facing us climate change is the most fraught and the most urgent. It’s good to know that people generally accept that the climate is changing and that the Earth’s population is threatened.

I feel terrible for my children and even more so for the grandchildren. I am all for action, but admit that my wife and I have not yet done enough to reduce our footprints. We still fly and, although we only drive a pitifully small mileage a year, we still have a conventional car. “Must do better”!

Climate change: Canadian town destroyed by fire

A wildfire that forced residents to flee the small town of Lytton in British Columbia continued to burn out of control last Thursday, fueled by three days of record high temperatures in Canada.

The town’s inhabitants were told to abandon their homes with just minutes’ notice on Wednesday after a day when the temperature soared to a record high of 121.2 degrees Fahrenheit. The province’s public safety minister, Mike Farnworth, said that most of Lutton’s homes and other buildings had been destroyed.  “Our poor little town of Lytton is gone,” Edith Loring-Kuhanga, an administrator at Stein Valley Nlakapamux school, said in a Facebook post. Some of the town’s residents were unaccounted for after the rushed evacuation. (Associated Press and The Guardian).

Comment: Truly scary! A foretaste of what is to come. The oil companies and the right-wing politicians who tell us “It’s all a hoax” have a lot to answer for, but denying climate change because it might be financially inconvenient for them, this is, in my opinion, almost criminal.

Aphrodite

Said Apollo the God
To the belle, Aphrodite,
“Come hither, my lovely
And take off your nightie.
“Oh no, Sir, said she,
(the advice of her mother)
You’re a hunk, that I know,
But I’m seeking another.

He’ll be tall, he’ll be fair
And more handsome than you,
(Who sits on this mountain with
Nothing to do).
He’ll write poems all day
And compose on the lyre,
With a figure to die for
And kisses like fire.

But it’s eons B.C and I
Have to discover
A single male person
Resembling this lover.”

So the sweet Aphrodite
Set out on her quest,
But no human or god
Passed her rigorous test.
She travelled through Tartary,
Turkey and Spain
Togo, Jamaica –
The men were all vain.
She went to Peru
But the men were untrue,
And a diet of buffalo
Ruled out the Sioux….

Women were servants to
Indians and Medes,
And the muscular Swedes
Couldn’t cope with her needs
There was nothing much going
In Vietnam or Gaul,
In Nepal, so it’s said
She found no one at all.
In Italy she had no
Great expectations,
Though, be fair, Italians are the
Best dressed of nations.

But lo! In the Marches of Italy
Well, quel surprise!
On a soggy, wet day with
Mud up to her knees. And after a search for
Milleniums of years
She’d found what she looked for
In joy and in tears.

A visit to England had been
Soundly rejected.
“Good gracious,” she thought,
“This is quite unexpected.
I thought they were boring,
Standoff-ish and plain,
And the country was shrouded in
Fog and in rain.”

Well………………..

He wrote verses all day and
Composed on the lyre,
With a figure to die for and
Kisses like fire.
He told endless stories and
Giggled too much
But she curiously responded to
Laughter and touch.

And now for all goddesses
It has been written:
“If you’re wise you’ll discover your
Lovers in Britain.”

(Robert “Tongue=in=Cheek” Hanrott)

Ataraxia

The Hellenic term “ataraxia” speaks to the acute pain caused by uncertainty and a lack of autonomy, and offers a way forward. Instead of harnessing experiences – like parties or big trips – for happiness, ataraxia proposes a much more modest view.

If you are more tranquil, you will be less likely to react or combust.
Frequently described in Ancient Greek philosophy, including Epicurus. ataraxia is a state that is characterised by freedom from distress and worry. It is a mindset that is experienced and cultivated internally to achieve
tranquility.

Ataraxia should act like a slow-release drug, accumulating over days and weeks. Ancient philosophers believed achieving ataraxia created an emotional homeostasis, where the effect wouldn’t just be a more stable base-level mood, but one that would hopefully flow out to the people around you.

If you are more tranquil, you will be less likely to react or combust. So not only do you not ruin your own day, you avoid ruining other people’s too. In a tranquil state you may even make better decisions.

Someone in a state of ataraxia is not gripped by passions – such as lust, envy or fear. All these emotions are often spurred by things outside our control. It makes you OK with uncertainty and lack of control and help us cope with the shocks that await us in the future?

How achievable is ataraxia – particularly for a modern person who is surrounded by distraction, marketing, social media and capitalism? For a person who is easily swayed by passions? The answer is that ataraxia occurs in the absence of such passions – wanting things, getting them, then wanting more tends to create massive mood swings.

In a widely shared Medium post, Steven Gambardella wrote: “Ataraxia is not a positively-defined state such as ‘happy’ or ‘excited’. It was believed by the Hellenistic philosophies to be a ‘resting’ state of serenity. It is nevertheless a desirable state of mind, one that (Greek philosopher) Pyrrho believed human beings naturally possess but can easily lose. In the same way that when free of illness our bodies are in a state of homeostasis, ataraxia is simply the absence of perturbation.”

“In the modern world we are deeply unhappy because our understanding of happiness is incorrect. We think it will arise from doing something – from a positively designed state – drinking, having sex, shopping. This version of happiness is quite bound up with consumerism.”

Ancient Greek philosophers, such as the Epicureans, Stoics and Sceptics “taught that happiness is not a positively defined state – it is a negatively defined word. It’s ‘without being phased’, or having any kind of strong feelings – and the Ancient Greeks were obsessed with it.”

The theory of ataraxia “emerged at a time of crisis … in the chaos and bloodshed that followed Alexander’s (the Great) death”. It “is an objective for anybody seeking a sense of balance and calm, especially in times of uncertainty”.

Ataraxia is achieved by using reason to assess a situation rationally, to understand what you can control, and what you can’t control. What you cannot control is not worth worrying about.

Grayling says ataraxia can be achieved if you “have courage to face what is outside yourself, such as earthquakes, pandemics and natural disasters, old age and death. And if you have self mastery of your inner self.”

Techniques to achieve ataraxia also include “zooming out” – and seeing yourself and your problems as just small specks in a massive universe.”

“Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.”. (Marcus Aurelius)

In practical terms, “one of the main things we can do to try and achieve ataraxia is avoid social media. Instagram can make people feel sad and lonely. It is the perfect anti-ataraxia phenomenon. Because you could never be followed by enough people, you could never have enough likes – it’s based on this idea of super abundance … and it’s filled with notifications that you should follow this complete stranger.”

“People have very shallow ideas about what happiness is. For example – being in love. One of the great cons in life is that being in love is what happiness is about. Then five or 10 years later you wake up and go ‘who the hell is this person?’ If you are achieving a heightened emotional state that you get at a party or in infatuation – that is not happiness. Happiness is a state and the state in question is where you, the individual, have a firm basis and place to do the work you need to do; the grief you need to go through; the people you need to encounter and the help you need to give people around you.

( Partly from Brigid Delaney who hs written a book on Stoic philosophy published by Allen and Unwin)

The Gulf Stream

Signs of ‘catastrophic’ Gulf Stream collapse spotted.

Climate scientists have detected warning signs of the collapse of the Gulf Stream, a development they say would have devastating global impacts. A study found “an almost complete loss of stability over the last century” of the Atlantic meridional overturning circulation currents, which may be nearing shutdown. The Guardian says this could have “catastrophic consequences around the world,” including severe disruption of rains that billions of people depend on for food in India, South America and West Africa. (The Guardian, 6 Aug 2021)

My comment: From the perspective of the British Isles and Western Europe, this prospect of a world without the Gulf Stream is the most dangerous of all the possible effects of climate change. It could radically change the climate and possibly make Western Europe unlivable, as I understand it.

Care of the Husband’s Person

The good husband guide.

On 8 April 2010 the London Review of Books reviewed a 14th Century Parisian book of household management called The Good Wife’s Guide: A Medieval Household Book.This is a compendium of medieval lore which aimed to instruct young wives how to be good, efficient, and obedient. The following is an excerpt from a section entitled “Care of the Husband’s Person”:

“Therefore love your husband’s person carefully. I entreat you to see that he has clean linen, for that is your domain, while the concerns and troubles of men are those outside affairs that they must handle, amidst coming and going, running here and there, in rain, wind, snow and hail, sometimes drenched, sometimes dry, now sweating, now shivering, ill-fed, ill-lodged, ill-shod and poorly rested. Yet nothing represents a hardship for him, because the thought of his wife’s good care for him on his return comforts him immensely. The ease, joys and pleasures he knows she will provide for him herself, or have done for him in his presence, cheer him: removing his shoes in front of a good fire, washing his feet, offering clean shoes, and socks, serving plenteous food and drink …. she puts him to sleep in white sheets and his nightcap, covered with good furs, and satisfies him with other joys and amusements, intimacies, loves and secrets about which I remain silent.”

With the above in mind let us now fast forward seven hundred years, noting the changed roles of husband and wife. This is the modern version:

Care of the Wife’s Person

Therefore love your wife’s person carefully. I entreat you, before you sit down to watch sport on television all day with a can of beer in hand, to see that she has clean underclothes, for the washing machine is your domain, as is the washing up and the making of the bed in the morning. The concerns and troubles of women are those outside affairs that they must handle, amidst taking the children to school, getting the car serviced, running here and there in rain, wind, snow and hail, sometimes drenched, sometimes dry, now sweating, now shivering, dealing with the bank, the mortgage and an unsympathetic boss, buying new shoes for the children and taking them to football practice, violin lessons and ballet; getting her facial, haircut and manicure and answering all the emails during her half hour lunch break.

Despite eating on the run, arranging all the social commitments and the visits of plumbers and electricians, nothing represents a hardship for her, because the thought of her husband’s good care for her on her return home comforts her immensely. The ease, joys and pleasures she knows he will provide for her cheer her: removing her shoes in front of a good fire, washing her feet, offering clean shoes, and socks, cooking plenteous food and pouring copious drink …. he puts her to sleep in white sheets, and, after he brings her a nice hot drink of cocoa and she has taken her anti-depressants, he tries to satisfy her with other joys and amusements, intimacies, loves and secrets, before she falls asleep exhausted. As to his feelings about all this I remain silent.

My comment: How did the author know about me and my wife?

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The Good Wife’s Guide: A Medieval Household Book is translated by Gina Greco and Christine Rose and published by Cornell, £16.95, March 2009, ISBN 978-0-8014-7474-3

Quote of the day

“To those who abuse us for simply making polite requests to wear masks or to maintain social distance in hospitals or GP practices, to those who deny the existence of the pandemic or the science of vaccination, to those who issue death threats or incite violence against us, we say enough is enough.”
(Gill Walton, chief executive of the Royal College of Midwives)

Religion and our divided society

From 1937 to 1998 church membership in the US remained relatively constant, hovering at about 70%. But over the past two decades, that percentage has dropped to less than 50%, the sharpest recorded decline in American history. Meanwhile the atheists, agnostics and those claiming no religion, have grown to represent a quarter of the population.

But if secularists hoped that declining religiosity would make for more rational politics, they are being disappointed. As Christianity’s hold has weakened, ideological intensity and fragmentation has risen. Now, what was once religious belief has turned into political belief, and political debate has morphed into political belief. Religion without religion.

Since the end of the Obama period debates over what it means to be American have become suffused with a fervor that would have been unimaginable in debates about what it meant to be Swedish or Belgian. “UnAmerican”is a common slur from both Right and Left, a charge akin to religious heresy. All strongly held ideologies are effectively faith-based; no human being can survive long without some ultimate loyalty, and if that loyalty doesn’t derive from traditional religion, it finds expression through secular commitment to nationalism, socialism or liberalism. Conservatives believe they are faithful to the American idea and that liberals are betraying it. Liberals believe exactly the opposite. Without an outside threat mutual antipathy grows.

My comment: Kindness, thoughtfulness, tolerance, consideration for others, honesty, integrity, good manners, generosity and a sense of humour – these are the hallmarks of of the lady and gentleman. They seem to be growing more rare by the day. Maybe church used to take the rough edges off the grumpy who believe all opponents are wicked? But maybe it really depends on upbringing and education.

A bleak picture of the happiness of youth

The annual UK Youth Index set up by the Prince’s Trust earlier this year stated that young people’s happiness and confidence across a range of areas, from working life to mental and physical health should “ring alarm bells”. Wellbeing has fallen to the lowest level since 2009. The research, based on a survey of 2,194 respondents aged 16 to 25 revealed that three out of five felt stressed owing to jobs and money, while one in four felt “hopeless”, while a full half had experienced mental health problems. Young people are particularly disillusioned with the job market and future prospects. They are subject to unusual levels of redundancy and cancelation of contract. 54% said they were worried about their finances. Young women were particularly lack confidence and fear “not being good enough in general”.

Nick Stace, chief executive of the charity is quoted as saying, ”This is a generation rapidly losing faith in their ability to achieve their goals in life, who are increasingly wary of and disillusioned with the jobs market and at risk of leaving a wealth of untapped potential in their wake”. (Guardian Weekly 13/4/2018).

My comment: I am truly concerned for young people today. It is very tough for them. And yet….casting my own mind back to my youth I too (despite trying to hide it) lacked confidence. After multiple rejections of my CV and no explanations, my confidence tanked and I was fearful of unemployment, despite two years in the army and a good university result. I know what it’s like to be rejected. When I became an employer I swore to treat job applicants with respect, explain why they didn’t quite fit this particular job, and treat them like the vulnerable human beings they were. Are things more brutal nowadays, or just more competitive?

Phone conversations

It seems that 75% of people with mobile phones value an actual phone conversation, but that 92% mainly use their phones for internet access. Long rambling phone calls are on the out, declining yearly. Extroverts prefer face-to-face conversations, which they find energising. Introverts, of which I am one, use the phone mainly for utilitarian purposes and generally don’t chat. It is the teenager who does, screening out the nagging Mum and grumpy Dad and the annoying brothers and sisters, and gossiping about the kids they have been with all day at school.

Now we are told that even teenagers are using text and the internet more, and long,rambling voice calls less.

My comment: We still have a landline, which probably identifies our approximate age. I don’t have a mobile at all (my wife does), mainly because I have better things to do than check the phone every 8 minutes.

Nowadays, if you are sent to a National Health hospital you can arrange to have all your health details available. Problem: the information is only sent to cellphones. Why? For alleged security reasons, although why anyone on Earth except a doctor would waste their time intercepting my health records I am puzzled to know Mind-boggling boring!