Comment-in-Brief: Mother’s Day

Mature Subject Matter: Reader Discretion Is Advised.

Growing up, I’d tried to believe that I, too, was wanted by my parents. However, the realities of substance-use, abuse, neglect and abandonment made it clear that my existence was merely the unintended consequence of their actions. The only reason I’m here is because they didn’t have an abortion. Many others like me, aren’t so lucky. They were aborted.

Epicurus taught us that nothing is enough for someone for whom enough is too little. Just this brief life, for which my mother sacrificed 9 months at great risk to her own life, is enough for me to be forever in her debt. I may not have been wanted but that doesn’t condemn me to live without love for myself and others. Most importantly, it doesn’t compel me to be a force of negativity and destruction, it does the contrary.

Recently, there have been pro-choice protests to counter pro-life activities on campus. This got me thinking, about how Epicurean philosophy teaches us about the importance of words and definitions, and I believe that abortion is really just a subset of murder. One that society deems permissible and – on rare occasions – thinks advisable.

Why can’t we understand the reasons for both pro-life and pro-choice? It seems rather unfortunate how each side regards the other as misanthropic.

Are there no instances where pro-choice is pro-life? Also, how healthy is it for people to believe that their actions are exempt of consequences? To not be accountable or responsible as a result of their choices? Somewhere, perhaps from spider-man, I learned that with great power comes great responsibility.

Well, people say there exists a line somewhere between pro-life and pro-choice, but it’s blurry to me. Maybe if more people focus there, we’d get somewhere more meaningful.

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I’ll sign off with an appropriate song: Where Is The Love? by The Black Eyed Peas

One Comment

  1. I am most terribly sorry to read your story, Oscar. I can imagine how painful it must be to state these facts, and in public.

    I personally believe that is is a grave sin to bring an unwanted, unloved child into the world, for the very reasons you have painfully stated. To force any woman to bear a child because the scriptures say so, and to have that child grow up and never forget it is unwanted and unloved is plain cruel. Your words, to me, bear out my thoughts.

    Seems to me that if you use any, I mean any, contraception you can be accused by extreme religionists of taking a potential life. If you use no contraception at all then you can both endanger the life of the mother, and also have the severe emotional effect on the child you describe, maybe for his or her whole life. Does this mean that abstinence is the only choice? (good luck with that!) To put it this way illustrates how this debate can become massively impractical. What we need is less stridency and more love. And let the woman decide – she has to take the risk, take the responsibility and do most of the work. The men should confine themselves to loving the child and supporting it financially.

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